Melii_JD

We have acquired a sense of belonging tracing way back to pre-school, having boyfriends, girlfriends and crushes were the norms but as we grew older and obtained experience and knowledge, being in a committed relationship was introduced.  Now, I’m all for the ‘relationship status’, but why bother when commitment is not involved.  A wise man once told me that as teenagers, life is not about settling down with that ‘one’ but looking for that ‘one’ – this might sound absurd but let me explain-  we should be dating, not looking for a ‘fairy tale fantasy’ where you live happily ever after.  That’s surreal, so let’s be real! ‘Vybezing’ &  ‘Dealing’ – terms we use associated with ‘dating’ but I prefer using ‘exploring’, some may regard this as being a ‘whore’ , that’s not the case – you’re simply weighing your options. 

Relationships at colleges and high schools are a ‘recycle bin’, someone who is with someone has already been involved with another/others at the same institution– ‘use and reused’.   Nothing is wrong with that though; break-ups are common because like I said from the beginning life is not surreal!  Being faithful is not top priority in many of these ‘relationships’, it may seem so for a given time but once the opportunity to ‘cheat’ is given, it’s usually taken.  I personally think relationships at our age shouldn’t be taken so seriously like some do, they put their hearts and lives on the line for their supposed ‘significant other’.  Y-O-L-O but be smart about it, if your relationship is not looking to hit a 3-5 years mark then you shouldn’t be walking on water about your ‘couple months relationship’.  And with all that being said, the relationships I’ve observed are mediocre and are in need of some serious repairs.